Personally, when it comes to dating, I feel as though there should be proper planning beforehand. The two people who are interested in each other should communicate to discover common interests so they can construct a date that would be fitting for both individuals. It should not devolve into last minute planning where things do not work out, causing an occasion of happiness to dissolve into one of inconvenience. This is what happened to me a couple of years ago. Back when I was attending community college, a girl that I met in my theater class accepted to go on a date with me. However, I did not put that much planning into the date. At the time, I did not consider her interests or places that she found intriguing. As the day arrived, I quickly came up with a plan for the date.
We went to the movie theaters to watch Jurassic World: Fallen Kingdom, and it was this decision that was the first mistake in a sea of disaster. Instead of going to dinner first, which would have provided an opportunity to connect personally through conversation, I took her straight to the movie theaters. This did not provide us with any adequate time to establish a connection, as we would have to be quiet out of courtesy for the other people in the auditorium. On top of the growing awkwardness, the theater’s projector went out during the previews. We were sitting in literal darkness for about five minutes until the theater told us to change auditoriums to watch the film. I felt so embarrassed because the rushed plan for our date was falling apart. Luckily, the second auditorium showed the film without any errors. However, not being able to converse for the starting couple of hours of the date proved to be awkward.
Afterwards, I tried to de-escalate the awkwardness by taking her to Denny’s, another date cliche. Not only did I do the bare minimum by resorting to the typical “dinner and a movie” date, but I did it backwards by doing the movie first. Also, since the film messed up and delayed our date by half an hour, we did not eat until about 8 pm. It was an unpleasant time to eat dinner, especially on a date. At this point, the poor planning, the film’s projector breaking, and the delayed late dinner made it feel as if the date was not going well. The Denny’s food was also typical Denny’s food. Although she did not openly express feeling dissatisfied, I could sense that this was not what she was expecting. The dinner itself was not so bad, with us connecting through talking about college classes, our lives, and our personal interests; however, it felt too little too late. The atmosphere felt dull, as the date had no spark within it.
To conclude, the connection between two people on a date should come more towards the beginning rather than the end of the date. With more planning and better places to attend than a simple theater and Denny’s afterwards, there would have been more energy shared between us. I definitely learned my lesson in carefully planning for dates after what I consider to be the worst date I have been on.
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