Cheaters Gonna Cheat

If you have been cheated on, know that it is not your fault. Your partner chose to make a conscious decision without considering your feelings. Yes, they broke trust—one of the most important things you have. Whether it was emotional or physical, it is still cheating. Now, I am not going to tell you what to do with your life. If you want the relationship to work, you will have to consider these things: Why do you want to get back together? Has your cheating partner assumed all responsibility for their actions? Are you out for revenge? Have you gotten the closure you needed to feel at peace (this could be why they cheated in the first place and if they are going to do it again)?

Now, I will tell you what to do with your life. A traumatic experience happened and you have a right to take time away from your former partner in order to process everything that has occurred. Your emotions will flip flop. One day you will be okay and then the next is like you are reliving the moment when you found out your partner wasn’t faithful to you. Emotions are a sickening cycle that you cannot control, but you have to feel them in order to heal and move on from the experience.

I will now warn you. If you do decide to re-enter the relationship, you are going to face resistance. Your friends and family might not be as supportive as you would have hoped—why are you allowing someone who hurt you to come back into your life? If you are open about your feelings and have involved friends, you may lose them. However, those that do stick around through thick and thin are your real friends. You should surround yourself with people who believe in you to make choices that are best for you. Is your former partner going to respect you, make you feel secure, valued, and safe? Are they still doing the same things that they promised they would never do again? Make sure they actually follow through. At the end of the day, a person can say anything, whether it is buying you a getaway vacation in Fuji or showering you with lavish gifts that you never asked for, they must actually perform the action that came out of their mouth.